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I received the following email today. I have changed the name and places to protect this person. I wanted to use this to express part of how I feel.

My name is Sally I was googling transgender issues and I came across your site. I am from Florida..

I wanted to send you a note thanking you for your site and your courage. It's really great to see a TG persons site that is tasteful and just really shows them off to be just a real person.

I have been TG all of my life, I'm married and have on child. I'm 35 and I'm also straight.As you are well aware being Tg is about one of the hardest things imaginable. You seem so well adjusted.

How do you do it. How have you managed to explore your feminine side and not turn into a side show. I ask this respectfully of course. I am just begining to really explore my feminine side, if for no other reason than just to let out what has been trapped and stifled for so long. I have no plans to transition and I am happily married.

Thanks for writing. Thanks for the complements on my site. I started out in public when I was just a few years older than you. I have always felt female but I am not going to give up a great and wonderful relationship with my wife just so I can be full time. I know that others have other feelings about that. I have seen so many give up families over this. Honestly, I feel like a woman except for sexually. A lot of people don't understand that but that is the way I feel. When I see people doing a lot of so-called "hot" or sexy things on their website, I chalk it up to a lot of testosterone. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. It is just the way they are. I teach classes at the UofW in Seattle, Highline and other schools. We draw a line on the board and call it the transgendered spectrum. It has fetishistic transvestites on the left end with run of the mill crossdressers in the middle and transsexuals on the right end. If you consider that a fetishistic transvestites is one who gets sexual satisfaction from wearing clothes of the other gender and a transsexual is just in the wrong body with the line between the two just being shadings of each as you move from one side to the other, you realize that a lot of people who have "sexy" sites just are on the left end of the transgendered spectrum. The people on the right end are not so out on websites because they really don't find it necessary to advertise. They just want to be themselves. I find myself close to being a TS but want to stay in my marriage. So, I think that my site reflect that in some way. I have a website because I am so involved with the transgendered community through the Emerald City and Esprit.

I have been going out consistently once or twice a week. Last week we went to Ray's Boathouse on Shilshole bay. It is just west of Ballard (part of Seattle) on Puget Sound. We met in the bar. There was about 20 of us. One of the girls has decided that we should have a chapter of the Red Hat Society. Our meetings will be the second Thursday of each month. A lady was sitting next to us that night with her daughter who must of been early 20s. She stopped by on her way out and gave us a great complement. She said that the problem with next week would be that we would probably not be there. Apparently she had enjoyed our presence. After that I went the EC officers meeting. We discussed important stuff. Like a plan for the Red and White party next month. After that I met some other girls from Rays at Bad Alberts and saw Annieville play blues like a lot of Thursday nights. She always invites us to go to the Eagles after Bad Alberts. I usually don't go because I have to work the next day. But this last Friday, I took off. So, I stayed up until Late O'clock.

We are again planning for Esprit. Wow, are we going to have fun this year. Look though the website at http://www.espritconf.com/ On the left side find "Events" and "After school party." Click on that and follow the links at the bottom of each page. It is going to be a very fun filled week.